You Are Not the Man You Are Supposed To Be

Martin Robinson

£20.00

In this searingly honest yet frequently hilarious book, we join Martin Robinson – magazine journalist and founder of men’s media site The Book of Man – on a journey into the chaos of modern masculinity. Along the way, Martin visits mental health groups and prisons, talks to sex activists, evolutionary psychologists and musicians, works out with Special Forces soldiers, watches cage fights, has a drag make-over and subjects himself to an ‘intimacy jam’ – all in his quest to unpeel the onion-like layers that make up the modern man.

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‘A sharp but sensitive exploration of the pitfalls of masculinity‘ – Jeffrey Boakye‘A wake up call to men’ – JJ Bola‘Wasn’t it time to pull apart what makes us men – to find some answers for myself, and perhaps for others too?’In this searingly honest book we join Martin Robinson – magazine journalist and founder of men’s media site The Book of Man – on a journey into the chaos of modern masculinity. Along the way, Martin visits mental health groups and prisons, talks to sex activists, evolutionary psychologists and musicians, works out with Special Forces soldiers, watches cage fights, has a drag make-over and subjects himself to an ‘intimacy jam’ – all in his quest to unpeel the onion-like layers that make up the modern man. And yes, tears are shed. Not cool, solitary tears either. Reflecting on his reporting and discussions with experts, Martin also examines some of the most pressing concerns facing men today, including violence, suicide and the spectre of toxic masculinity. He explores how men are defining themselves beyond traditional male stereotypes; whether they can learn to expand the limits of what society expects; how to combat the male mental health epidemic; and why men need a new blueprint to live by in a society transformed by the Digital Age, new attitudes in gender relations and a global pandemic.Crammed full of interviews with the likes of Jason Fox from SAS: Who Dares Wins, Jason Williamson of Sleaford Mods, musician Professor Green, authors Poorna Bell and Thomas Page McBee, poet Derek Owusu and Olympic gold-winning boxer Luke Campbell MBE, You Are Not the Man You Are Supposed to Be portrays a nation of men struggling to make sense of this strange new world, ultimately seeking out powerful new ways for them to be.

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Weight0.494 kg
Dimensions23.4 × 15.3 × 2.5 cm
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